Relationship and dating world

  Be truthful to your relationship

You will never convince a man to love you.

Find a man who answers when you call and texts back within minutes rather than days. 

 Find a man that gives you clear cut answers and doesn’t leave you wondering where you stand.

Find a man that wants to make you a part of his life rather than a chapter in his book.

Find a man who doesn’t take years and years to figure out what he wants from you.

 Find a man who respects, celebrates and encourages your individuality, your education, your spirituality, and your growth. 

Remember It is never asking too much from a man to be considered a priority.

 Find a man who is genuinely interested in you and pursues you on a daily basis. 

Find a man who asks you to go to church with him.

Find a man who pray with you 

Find a man that never let's you go to sleep at night wondering if you still matter. 

Watch how a man treats his mother. You can learn alot from how someone treats the person that brought them into this world.

Never chase a man because of his looks because one day those looks will eventually fade and what your left with is what's inside so don't be consumed by his physical traits. 

 Find a man who protects you and stands up for you even when you're not around. 

Find a man who values you and who would never put themselves in a position to lose you. 

Find a man who wakes up everyday looking for new ways to love you.

Find a man that understands it's not about giving you the world but making you feel like you're the only one in it. 

Remember your time is precious. Don't waste it on someone who doesn't realise you are too. 

If you find such man , keep him no matter what. 

 THE PURPOSE OF DATING.

Don't love deeply until you're sure that the other person loves you with the same depth.

Because the Depth of your Love today is the Depth of your Wound Tomorrow.

The purpose of dating is to find someone you can spend the rest of your life with, that's it...

Having Known The Purpose Of Dating, What  Kind Of  Person Should You Date

Date someone who Understands you even in the Madness..

Be in Love with someone who takes your Happiness as his/her Priority.. such person will never hurt you..

Date someone who wants you; with such person you won't beg for attention..

Date your Friend, who supports you and who Believe in your Vision.

Be with someone who is ready for Marriage not Wedding.

Date a matured mind not matured body..

Date someone who will see your Strength in your Weakness...

Be with someone who is Proud to have you and Love to show It...

Date someone that values Communication, not overlooking Compatibility and Care...

Love with Purpose..

Love without purpose 

HOW TO AVOID GETTING TRAPPED IN A WRONG RELATIONSHIP

Sometimes when you hear some of the issues people face in relationships or listen to people telling their stories or read what they post on social media, it is easy to draw conclusions that the one with the issue is a big fool. It's like their decision was one of the poorest you have ever heard and if you were in their shoes, you would have done better.

But the truth of the matter is, you are not more intelligent than them neither are you more blessed with wisdom than them. You might have made the same mistake or worse if you found yourself in their shoes.

It is fascinating to know that in the 21st century people believe when we talk about love it is the business of the heart and because of that we leave the head out. How can you make the right or correct decision without your head?

Any serious person who is looking for a serious relationship should let his or her head guide them. This is how you do that. Anytime you meet someone you like and wish to be in a relationship with, or someone approaches you in the name of a relationship or marriage, take time to do your background check, get to know them as a mere friend before you decide to be in a relationship with them.

Never rely on anyone to do that, if you have to solely rely on people to think or make decisions, God wouldn’t have given you a head. That alone should motivate you to make the best use of your head. If you recognize a behaviour, attitude, lifestyle, belief etc you are not comfortable with or don't want to end up with a person like them as a couple, then please stop entertaining them. Stop talking to them.

If you don't stop talking to them, you are likely to trap yourself in a relationship with them. Once you start talking to them, you have started creating a bond with them. A bond that has the power to bring the two so close to the extent that you develop strong feelings for them.

Once you develop a strong feeling for them, you don't care anymore about the issues or concerns you have with them. You just believe your feeling for them is strong enough to take care of everything, which is a lie. Your feeling has no power to change them. You have rather given them the power to influence you.

Your feelings for them now becomes your weakness. They are able to explore; manipulate and make you do things you wouldn't have done if you had no feelings for them. You become their prisoner and you realize the relationship is not best for you but you are trapped.

Have you asked yourself why a lady who vowed not to date the married ends up trapped in a relationship with one at the end? This happens because she continues to talk to him, she continues to entertain him.

You heard him complain she is disrespectful or lives a lifestyle he doesn’t want to end up in a relationship with but with time, he is trapped in such a relationship. This is because he was talking to her to the extent of creating a bond. As a result, he has developed strong feelings for her.

When you take a good look at the human being, the head is above the body; before you accept anyone as a lover, please make the maximum use of your head. If you find out he or she is not your kind of partner let them go. If your troubles walk out of the door it means you don't have to work hard to get rid of them. That is far better than giving such a person your time, it’s like giving them a part of you that you can't get back. 

You are just adding to your problems because you already identified the person as someone you wouldn't like to be with. You will now need to work hard in the future to get rid of them. That doesn't come easy, it comes with a war, fighting yourself to let go what is wrong, since you allowed it to be part of you. 

You don't owe someone who is not your choice or kind of partner an explanation. Remember only the guilty feel the need to explain. You are not guilty for saying NO so don't go giving them explanations or reasons why you can't accept them.